Are you driving with the rearview mirror? You're likely saying, "silly question". Of course, you can't drive with the rearview mirror! You'd soon crash because you're focused on what's behind as opposed to having your attention on what lies ahead.

The TV show Extreme Weight Loss featured a woman named Nyla who weighed 435 pounds. The show features a fitness trainer who specializes in helping people who are extremely obese.

He works with them for an entire year to lose weight. Nyla was 28 at the time she began working with him. She ate huge amounts of food regularly. In fact, when he caught up with her, she was at a Cajun seafood restaurant eating her usual fare of 10 lbs. of crawfish and other stuff.

Her pattern for overeating was that whenever stress hit her, she ate. And the number one thing she kept pointing back to was the fact that she grew up without knowing her father. That fact alone, and I'm not diminishing how much it affects people, was what she would always point back to. It crippled her and sabotaged her.

Rather than sticking with the eating plan she would sneak in the food she wasn't supposed to eat. Then she'd have her weigh-ins and see she wasn't losing weight and get stressed and eat more. And all the while she kept pointing back to: I don't know who my father is. He must not have wanted me.

She clearly was driving with her rearview mirror. And it wasn’t until she dealt with her feelings about not knowing her father that she found any success in losing weight.

Sound familiar?

Do you find yourself repeating the experiences of the past? Does it seem like you're caught in a never-ending cycle?

Chances are you might be "driving with the rearview mirror".

If you keep having the same experiences, the same relationships issues- just with different people, same money issues, the same stuff... If it feels as if your best days are behind you rather than ahead, then you’re driving in the rearview mirror.

So how to turn this around?

The first is to remember is if things keep resurfacing, it means they're coming up for healing. Healing takes place by shining the light of truth on them. The truth that divine principle is not bound by precedent. No matter what your past might have been, the full power of Spirit is available to you in this moment to reveal your wholeness.

The second insight comes from a quote I posted recently on social media: every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.

Realizing this can help us to reframe our experiences and see them as part of a process rather than a place to remain stuck. We move our vision away from past- the rearview mirror- to looking forward-
anticipating our best yet to be that lies ahead.